I only found out I had depression recently and a large part of why was because I thought that was normal, having to pull yourself back together to this extent was what everyone did, that depression was something so great that a person couldn’t do it on their own. She mentions seeing a therapist but she was able to work out on her own that she needed to go down that path and continues to pull herself back together again and again. It is not one thing that drove her to loneliness but many little things (quite a few of which are societal pressures and sometimes society doesn’t like to admit its flaws) that resulted in her becoming quite frankly, a mess.īut one more thing Kabi was able to do was understand herself. Kabi has a real knack for clearly articulating what and why she felt things at various points over the years. One thing I do have in common with Kabi is that I have some depression and anxiety, something which can be remarkably hard to figure out! My Lesbian Experience with Loneliness is the best “this is how depression and anxiety can make you feel” story I’ve ever seen. Rather, it was coming to understand her sexuality that helped Kabi sort out other pieces of her life, things and mindsets that felt perfectly normal and fine but in hindsight were not, and this ties her autobiographical story into the rare, natural-feeling character arc. Nagata Kabi’s life is many things and while her lesbian identity is an important aspect of that, it is not the only aspect of her life and I hope that people don’t see this title and walk away because they aren’t lesbians. Helen: I am neither a lesbian nor afraid of my loneliness, but My Lesbian Experience with Loneliness still described me better than many others have tried.

Lesbian experience with loneliness